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To Fear or Not To Fear

by Alan Gordon, LCSW

In her book, Bossypants, Tina Fey struggles with a decision as she approaches the age of forty. Should she have a second child, or should she continue focusing on her career? She feels that she needs to choose between the two options, since, as she puts it, “Science shows that fertility and movie offers drop off steeply for women after forty.” After months of anxiety, she found herself at her physician’s office for an annual check-up. The moment her doctor entered the room, Tina…

Generating Self-Compassion

by Alan Gordon, LCSW

Sometimes it can be difficult to treat yourself as nicely as you treat others. I often ask clients who are particularly hard on themselves if they treat their children with the same level of criticism, pressure, and overall abuse that they treat themselves. Nine out of ten times they look at me with horror and say, “Of course not!” For most people it’s easier to treat someone else lovingly than it is to extend that same compassion to one’s self. One of the purposes…